Hard Candy is Better Than Arm Candy

This weekend was sweet reminder for all us girls.
Blair and I were meeting the girls for a night on the town when I ran into
Tasti Delite to browse the candy section. I had given my kitchen a slight make over and I was looking for colorful treats to fill six mason jars that sat above my kitchen cabinets. The Tasti Delite in midtown east always has the best selection. I found extra large multi-colored gum balls, gummy bears, and jelly beans that would be bright additions to my jars. I stuffed the bags of candy in my purse and headed across the street to meet the girls. I walked into the restaurant just as three guys were circling my girlfriends.
This scene was all too familiar.
By the time I reached the girls, it was too late.
Men circling the girls like scorpions, watching and waiting for the right time to strike.

"Oh hi, how ya doin'? My names Matt, do you live in the city?"
Matt took his first stab at the conversation.
"Yup," one of the girls says with a half a glance. "Here with my girlfriends." And with that she was gone.

I watch four different men take the same plunge with girls in the group. None of them successful. The only time a guy actually got a name or maybe a phone number (if he was lucky) was completely unintentional:
Kate met a guy that she didn't want to talk to; she gives him Blairs number.
Caroline thought the guy was a friend of one of the girls, so she gave out her number.
And for me, I'm networking! The kid works for a great company, so I gave him my number.

We have learning in this fast city that all the guy wants is a girl to hang out with. A cute girl he can take to his work functions, parties, or weddings.
He wants Arm Candy.

Girls know this term all too well and often we are guilty of using it to our own advantage (example: Tom Petty concert tickets, JT concert tickets, VIP rooms...).
My girl friends and I may be guilty of giving out a few digits. But at the end of the night when we are all sitting laughing in my tiny living room eating jelly beans, one thing is for sure!

Hard candy beats being arm candy any day of the week!